Dating sex marriage
Professors Jennings Bryant and Dolf Zillman have been researching the effects of pornography for more than 30 years and have concluded that when it comes to porn use “no rigorous research demonstrations of desirable effects can be reported.”Or in other words, in all the legitimate research they’ve studied over the years, they have found NO benefits to pornography- only damage. Jill Manning found that 56% of divorce cases involved one party having an “obsessive interest in pornographic websites.” Similarly, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers polled 350 divorce attorneys in 2003, where two-thirds of them reported that the internet played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.So, what is it about pornography that is leading to divorce? According to numerous studies, prolonged exposure to pornography leads to a diminished trust between intimate couples. After all, pornography and secrecy go hand in hand.Our intent is not to get on a soapbox or start a debate, but to really look at the effects pornography has on relationships and, specifically, marriage.We all have our own personal moral and religious views on the subject, but for the purpose of this article, we’re going to be mainly focusing on what scientific research, studies, and surveys have discovered about the link between pornography and marriage.Porn users may find that not only do they see their partners in a less than “satisfying” way, but they start to think that they themselves are less attractive as well.Men who viewed a lot of porn were likely to say that they became more critical of their partner’s appearance and lost interest in sex with their partner as a result.In fact, 30% of all data transferred across the internet is porn-related!
In contrast, true marital intimacy is a giving of oneself.Interestingly enough, twice as many women reported that their porn-watching spouses became more critical and that this criticism made the women less interested in sex.Researches have found that porn consumers eventually compare their spouse or partner and themselves to images of porn models.Is it any wonder then that it destroys self-esteem?How can anyone live up to to the unrealistic expectations of porn’s perfectly airbrushed, surgically enhanced, and carefully photoshopped bodies?
They don’t want to push their husband away by putting “unrealistic expectations” on him or they want to “keep things exciting” so he doesn’t get bored.