Dating sex tip
Luckily, I eventually realized that there's no "right" way to date, and that I need to find happiness within myself, no partner needed.
I don’t know if it’s because I watched too many rom-coms growing up or if I’m just wired to DTR the moment a dude double-texts me, but casual dating is not something I’ve ever learned how to do.
There will absolutely be people in the game who won’t tell you that’s what they’re looking for, mislead and disappoint you, or who will say they want one thing when they actually want something else.
But, like Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” If someone you're interested in says they just want casual sex, believe them.
He knew casual sex was all that I could give at the moment, and when he started wanting something more, he walked away.
After just one drink, I told the dude I was with that I had to go, put him in a cab, and then sent off a text to my second date, faking a headache.
I marched back into the bar, sat down next to writer guy, and ordered myself a drink.
Being on that side of the situation made me realize the tragic mistake I’d been making with men when I was younger.
They’d told me exactly what they wanted in a relationship — to not be in one, basically — and they stuck to their guns.
By projecting my own desires onto our situation rather than hearing and respecting what they had told me at the start, I was setting myself up for heartbreak. The problem wasn’t casual sex, or the fact that it’s what they wanted.