Speed dating sex
There's some new research on speed dating, coming from researchers in Germany (Asendorpf, Penke, and Back, in press).They set up a speed-dating event and invited a total of 382 people (190 men and 192 women) who were aged 18-54 to participate.Additionally, women are at greater risk of being the victim of verbal or physical abuse in retaliation for rejection. A man who acts like the whole thing is no big deal, or a man who professes love on the first date?Even omitting the fear of hurting (or being hurt by) a virtual stranger, shy men still are shooting themselves in the foot by acting like the end result of a relationship is all that matters.Most dates don't turn into anything, which means that a man who is way too serious (some would say desperate) makes a woman feel like she's crushing his hopes and dreams if she rejects him.
And at an average cost of per event, that's just dollars a date.
I've already witnesses women saying one thing and chasing after the complete opposite and it simply goes back to the age old question: "What the hell do women want?
" I think the study itself is confounded as it shows quantitave evidence that the majority of women go speed-dating to seek a long-term partner, but then rate the more sociosexual males higher.
This finding was confirmed both after 6 weeks and 1 year after the speed-dating event. For busy people, speed dating may indeed be worth it. © 2010 by Scott Barry Kaufman References Asendorpf, J. Often the quiet or shy ones are overlooked but they are usually the ones who are best suited for long-term relationships and most ready to commit.
Mind you, we're not going to get your adrenaline running 24/7 like those other guys but then again we won't treat you like second class citizens more often than not.
I think at least one reason sociosexual men do better in speed dating is because they don't take the proceedings too seriously. Someone who's relaxed and willing to take chances on flirting, light teasing, or engaging in off-the-wall humor, or someone who treats a meet and greet like a job interview?